It's no secret amongst my friends that I hate texting. It is only good for a situation that requires a maximum of one text per side. One person asks a question, the other responds. That's it. For any other situation, make a call. A back and forth conversation of six texts per side could have been handled in a twenty second phone conversation.
Having said this, I am proud to announce that I have added a new reason to hate texting. It is due to its use in the shidduch field. I am of course referring to a text I received fairly recently, which I will quote as soon as I can get the phone out of my pocket...there:
"Are you single?"
This was followed the next day by:
"I gotta girl for you" (Why are there two t's in gotta?)
Both of these texts were ignored. Why? Well aside from the fact that I usually ignore texts that will require a long conversation, this one was completely thoughtless. There is no response I could have given that would not have turned into a longer conversation.
If I answered "yes," then the conversation would have been all about this girl and why she's good for me, etc. If I answered "no," then I go into a conversation about the girl I am currently dating and "if I'm at any point not busy, I should let him know." So I thought I'd outsmart him by responding to his third text with "leave me alone."
This worked like a charm. He stopped bothering me, he stopped asking me questions and most importantly he stopped texting me. Of course, if you believe this, you have the IQ of a soup crouton. This sparked a ruckus which I cannot describe in words (although I must say that he did an outstanding job of doing so quite colorfully). I had apparently offended him, but I didn't care because he offended me by trying to set me up via text.
I'm not against communicating by text messaging. There is a time and a place for it. The only reason one might have for texting as opposed to talking is because they don't want to have an actual long, physical conversation with another person. If this was the case here, I don't think I want to be set up by a guy who doesn't want to talk to me.
Like I said before, texting has a time and a place. Sidduchim is not one of them.